In a Commentary by Michael Josephson, from Character Counts and the Josephson Institute, Josephson notes that treating others with respect is often more an expression of our views, and our own character, than an expression of what is “due” to another person.  Noting an important distinction between respecting others in the sense that we “admire them or hold them in high esteem” and treating others with respect, Josephson asserts that respectfulness is a moral mandate and our good treatment of others is an expression of our own good character. 

People of character, according to Josephson, are obligated to treat everyone with respect, even if they don’t necessarily deserve it.   Additionally, not treating others with respect lessens their own character. For some, a great deal of self-control is necessary to show respect to people who are dishonorable or disrespectful to them/others. However, it is their own integrity that can help them resist the temptation to display what could tear them down internally.

In sharing a story about a politician who was drawn into some mudslinging with his opponent, Josephson stated that once the politician realized he was lowering himself to the opponent’s level, he stopped and said, “Sir, I will treat you as a gentleman – not because you are one but because I am one.”

Daily, we are required to manage the demands of those who are often disrespectful, but in understanding the true nature of respect as a reflection of our own character, treating others with respect becomes not only less of a challenge, but also a reminder that we teach best by example.

Character Counts is an informative website offering insightful advice about character dynamics and the usefulness of using and developing respectful approaches to students and others as well as other strategies and ideas related to the positive nature of character education.